Personally, I love Amy Chua’s piece in the Wall Street Journal. Not that I’m going to turn into a Chinese mother, but I think it’s incredibly refreshing to hear someone refute what many in this country see as the proper way to parent–setting no to few boundaries, failing to instill the most basic manners, punishing children for only the most grave offenses, and putting self-esteem building above actual achievement.
Like Carrie, I have my reservations, but when it’s now quite acceptable for children’s sports teams to forgo score keeping and to hand out trophies to all the players whether they were on the winning team or not (we don’t want anyone’s feelings to get hurt), it’s nice to see someone actually say something like this:
What Chinese parents understand is that nothing is fun until you’re good at it. To get good at anything you have to work, and children on their own never want to work, which is why it is crucial to override their preferences.
Let’s not forget another mother that recently made headlines — Monet Parham, of Sacramento, California. You might recall that Ms. Parham recently filed suit against McDonalds because she finds it too hard to say no to her children’s demands for happy meals.
Maybe Monet should read Amy Chua’s piece in the Wall Street Journal. Who knows, maybe she’ll be inspired to tap into her inner-Chinese mother and try to override her children’s preferences for happy meals.