These obnoxious podcasters agree that men should not be dating if they make less than $50,000 a year.

That’s… quite an opinion. 

Many women on Twitter are using this to reflect on where they started out in their marriages (and how far they’ve come).

THESE stories are the reality for most successful marriages (especially for those who marry young): You invest early, knowing both of you still have a lot of growing to do and that you don’t intend to be working an entry-level job for your entire career. 

Here’s the thing: Dating does not have to be expensive if your priorities are straight.

If you’re dating just to have fun and eat good food on someone else’s dime… good luck to you. Would love to check back in with you in five years.

A first date can be as inexpensive as a cup of coffee and a long walk around a park. My husband and I took long hikes in our first month of dating, getting to know each other as we navigated rocks and tree roots.

When you decide to marry someone, you have to have faith in the potential of your partner—but you also have to be prepared to help them achieve their dreams.

How much money they’re making when you meet is irrelevant.

Case in point: My husband and I are now making twice what we were when we met. I credit a lot of that to the unique support we provide each other (and the fact that he finally finished grad school—IYKYK).

I never would have had the financial freedom to quit my job and start my own consulting/independent work without him—and he never would have had the stress reduction and mental load reduction I provide in the way of a happy, well-managed home to give him the focus he needed to excel in his work.

Look, the whole point of marriage is to grow strong together (ideally as a foundation for your family).

And the whole point of dating should be to find the person you want to build a life with.

And these ladies clearly do not get it.